Following are the answers to your questions:
1. I would like the video embedded but not youtube. Is there a way that it is viewable from all browsers and platforms and loads quickly but isn't a you tube video?
A. If you have the source file, we can convert it to several formats and upload to the site and use html5 video player and make a fallback to flash player for old browsers, this way you don't have to rely on youtube.
2. he aslo wants it to get bigger when you click on it?
A. We can add a video image instead of a real video that would display a popup and play the video when the image is clicked.
3. the video on the home page is a feed from the testimonials page is there a way to hide it on the testimonial page? Basically my client wants it on the home page but doesn't need it on the testimonials page.
A. We can delete it from the testimonials page and make it just show on the main page.
The cost for all the changes is just $125. Let me know once you want to get started.